Posts Tagged ‘grandparents’


Tuesday, October 21st, 2014

Sunday, October 19th,  at 11:07am Pacific time Titus Jay  Gladstone entered our world at  eight pounds seven ounces. Titus is super cute as you can tell from the pictures. He is also super strong. Titus came out  with  eyes open and ready toTitus take on the world.  Mom Natasha, after thirty hours of labor, was  less sparky but in great shape. Dad Cyrus seemed the most in need of a  nap of the three as he took his birth coaching tasks quite seriously and was up most of the thirty hours with Natasha.

Titus is my first grandchild. Everyone tells you how attached you are going to be to your grandchildren and they are right. Titus and I only had an initial brief conversation with me doing all the talking, but I can already tell we are going to be great friends.  Titus has a really strong chest for a newborn, a strong grip and good control of his legs.  He smiles a lot, opens his eyes to look at you and seems to understand everything you say.  He prefers sleeping to talking but does emit little cries when he is passed from parent to grandparent.  We are limiting visitors for the first couple of days but that is more for the benefit of Cyrus and Natasha than Titus.  Titus doesn’t seem to have a care in the world. Good thing since the world has enough cares already.

It will be interesting to see how Titus contributes to the world.  He clearly has shown up with lots of knowledge, most of which no doubt he will forget as he is programmed to survive human interaction.  You can tell from a newborn that they are totally aware on a higher plane of everything that is happening.  They seem somewhat puzzled by having their small vulnerable human body, but other than that they are blissed out beings.  At least Titus is.

We welcome Titus to our family and our world.  No doubt he will be blogging and participating in all sorts of activities in just a few short years. Until then he can just lay back and relax and let his parents and grandparents spoil him with love.  Every  baby is a miracle baby.  How just two small cells can produce such perfect marvels is beyond comprehension.  We all have an obligation to ensure that the world that Titus and his peers grow into is viable and sustainable.  The really big solutions  will no doubt come from Titus and those being born at this time with great spiritual strength, but in the meantime the rest of us need to do our best to maintain the best of what already exists.  If a new born baby will not inspire us, nothing will.  Let’s continue to be inspired.

Way to go Titus!!!Titus 2


Monday, November 25th, 2013

As an anthropologist, I studied the role of extended families cross-culturally and throughout history.  Extended families 5208767233_41a571d091_onormally include not just parents, grandparents, great-grandparents and siblings, but aunts, uncles, and cousins and, in many cultures, second and third cousins. Without the participation of extended families it is unlikely that modern civilization would have evolved as effectively as it has. But today we have evolved so far that our technology and economic flexibility have made extended families in many parts of the world, and particularly in the United States, relatively unimportant for the majority of people.

Does this matter? I think it does, and in ways that are perhaps more important than we realize. It is not just a matter of support that we receive in terms of babysitting, economic assistance, and psychological comfort in times of need.  Extended families remind us of who we are, where we came from and why what we do matters.

One of the reasons I am particularly pleased that my daughter is marrying into a tight-knit family in Barcelona, Spain is that the Catalan culture, like many European cultures, greatly values the extended family. Cataluna is a relatively small region, and the opportunities for families to share major events are relatively easy. In the case of my daughter’s wedding, to some extent extended family members have to be limited as inviting the entire extended family would require a wedding of many hundreds of just Catalan family members. Even with these cuts, extended family will number one hundred or more. (more…)