Posts Tagged ‘marriage’


Monday, January 13th, 2014

No topic in literature is more thoroughly explored than  love. We have  puppy love, sexual love, romantic love, parental It's_all_about_lovelove, the list seems endless. The first novel Don Quijote by Miguel Cervantes explored the nature of chivalry and the delusional love Don Quijote imagined he had for Dulcinea. In some way it seems appropriate that the very first major literary work about love explored the delusional nature of romantic love.

In the English language there is only one word for love but in other languages  there are sometimes as many as twenty different words to describe  different  types of love. In Spanish there is a clear  demarcation between carnal love—te quiero—and  platonic love—te amo. Of course the two can overlap.

In today’s world love is misunderstood more than ever. We have  shows on television such as The Matchmaker and The Bachelor which propose to help people  fall in love and form permanent relationships. In many  indigenous civilizations the idea of romantic love did not exist at all. Marriages were  primarily arranged  for the economic benefit of the  tribe  or the family and in many cases cross cousin marriage was almost obligatory to ensure long term alliances  among  families. (more…)

Love and Marriage

Tuesday, June 25th, 2013

My daughter Tara is now officially engaged to be married to Oia Pursals Claret. The picture shows her hand and the Tara and Oía engagementTara with ringdiamond engagement ring. This is a joyous occasion for Tara, Oia, and all of our families. Tara and Oia have been living together for more than two years and both families have enjoyed spending time together mostly in and around Barcelona, Spain where Tara and Oia are living.  For the last six months ever Since Oia told me he was going to propose to Tara  as soon as he was able to have the right  engagement ring made,  I have been telling everyone (except Tara) that  Oia is Tara’s fiancée, though of course only now is it official.  Tara suspected the engagement was going to happen, but like all major events in life, one never knows for sure until the proposal is actually made. I have never seen Tara with a bigger smile and greater enthusiasm for life than I did this morning when she Skyped me from the mountain beach town of Cadaques near the French border in Cataluna where the happy couple will be celebrating their engagement.

Ever since I met Oia two years ago I have felt that he would be the ideal husband for Tara. It helps that Oia’s Catalan family is wonderful and provides ideal support for both Tara and Oia as they establish a life together. Tara has  been a dancer, writer, editor, and social media  PR specialist. Tara is presently focused on editing and assisting spiritual teachers with their books.  And Oia, a Catalan architect working with one of Barcelona’s top architecture firms, is focused on creating ecologically sustainable buildings and homes. Neither is fully established with their careers from a financial perspective, but they have each demonstrated excellence which I am sure in time will provide them with the necessary financial support to raise a family together. More importantly, they are nurtured by the creative elements of their work and able to share aesthetic and cultural interests that will sustain an active and  stimulating dialogue between them for many years. They are good and kind people and all of us are looking forward to when they have children since they are both movie star good looking and are likely to produce amazingly attractive and talented offspring. (more…)