Posts Tagged ‘sick’

WHAT YA’ GO’ N’A DO?

Monday, January 20th, 2014

In honor the late actor James Galdofini, Gayle and I recently watched the complete series of The Sopranos as originally aired on HBO. We enjoyed the series, especially this gifted actor who left us much too soon. One of the favorite comments of Gandolfini’s Tony Soprano character took place particularly after someone died or other tragic incident had occurred (even if he had been the cause of the tragedy or death), “What  ya go’n’a do?”

Gayle and I have taken to using this line quite frequently, especially when things turn out less than optimally. For instance we had to cancel almost all our plans for last week and most of next week because of my flu. When you are sick there really is nothing you can do but try to get well. For Tony when someone died there was nothing left to do. You went to the wake, you threw dirt on the coffin and then went and ate some pasta. What else could you do?   Of course often there were things Tony might do including taking revenge against rival Mafiosi members.

Same when you are sick. On the one hand you just resign yourself to being sick and accept your diminished capacity and the suffering. At the same time you listen to those who recommend rest, chicken soup, and other home remedies. In my case I am doing all of that and also have the benefit of some wonderful healers such as Dr. and Master Sha. Master Sha had emailed me that he had just returned from China and wanted to discuss plans for his next book. I emailed him that I had the flu and we would have to wait at least until next week before I could focus.

Within the hour Dr. Sha called and offered me a healing blessing. That was twenty four hours ago. He recorded a chant and recommend that I hold his book Soul Healing Miracles to my chest and throat and listen to his blessing. I did that a couple of times and although I am not yet one hundred percent I do feel a great deal better. I may still need a couple of days before I have my normal energy and am not contagious to others, but no doubt his remedy is helping.

I am fortunate to have so many people who love me and have sent me get well quick messages. Other than watch football later today and rest, I’m not sure there is anything else I can do. In the meantime I am enjoying in a strange way the acceptance that there is little I can do to speed the healing process. I do not get sick often, and when I do I sometimes think the universe is sending me a message to slow down, collect my thoughts, reassess my priorities, and appreciate the sacredness of good health and a balanced life. What ya go’na do?

 

IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH

Friday, January 17th, 2014

I have the pleasure of working with Bill Gladstone, and today I received the following blog copy from him:images

We know that marriages are supposed to be commitments that are not just for the good times. We know that the postal service is supposed to continue rain or snow. But we often fail to realize that we are committed to our own personal journeys  in both sickness and in health. It is no fun being sick. I find it impossible to write or have in depth conversations when I am  ill. I just have the flu and it will pass but my level of misery is real.

So all of you out there, if you are well, celebrate the joy of life. If you have the flu like me, hang in there. Tomorrow will be another day and the joy of healthy balanced life will return. I still fail to comprehend why our biological systems are so frail. Perhaps in the future we will find a way so that no one ever needs to be sick.

Of course, I immediately wrote back that he should get Tamiflu, stay in bed, drink fluids, and that if he wanted, I would bring him chicken soup – all the requisite advice and offers we give to friends who fall prey to the flu.  What we don’t do often enough is to admonish our friends and loved ones, as well as ourselves, to avoid taking being healthy for granted; to stay at least as aware of our health as we are of celebrity gossip and other nonsense.

A few months ago, Labor Day to be exact, I returned from a visit to upstate NY coughing and sneezing – mostly coughing.  Writing it off to exposure to unfamiliar flora and fauna, I told myself I was just experiencing NY allergies.  Weeks went by, the cough grew worse, in fact debilitating, and I couldn’t seem to stay awake.  Finally, in late October I was diagnosed with pneumonia.

A week off, and I came back to work, determined to catch up, putting in a seventy hour week.  And I was actually surprised when at the end of that week my fever spiked yet again and my cough returned.  Hadn’t I been on antibiotics and taken them religiously.

So, what’s the point of all this?

We have developed a quick-fix, give-me-a-pill-for-it mentality, and with that we no longer allow our bodies the necessary time to heal.  When I was a child, the doctor still came to your house.  If you were sick, he gave you cough medicine, aspirin, and sometimes an antibiotic. But what the doctor would really insist on was rest and fluids – for at least several days – emphasizing that the body needs time to heal itself.

These days, when we or our kids are sick we take our antibiotics and tell ourselves that twenty-four hours later we can and should get back to school or work.  Instead of allowing for the natural healing process to ensue, we depend on pills.  And that has expanded to depending on pills to enhance our moods, immediately cure our headaches, kick-start weight loss, and to tend to a myriad of other ailments we could otherwise attend to more naturally.

Modern medicine has its place.  It works wonders. But when push comes to shove, it is the natural ability of the body to heal itself that we must honor.

So today I am reiterating to Bill the advice he gave me in October and November. Get lots of rest.  Hydrate.  Don’t push yourself back to work too soon.  Give yourself time to truly heal.  And for those of you out there, keep this in mind the next time the flu or a cold hits you, too.  I know I will.